Has the ‘love’ word lost its magic for you? The first time you said ‘I love you’ to your partner, it meant to be a milestone in your relationships. With those three words you got into a relationship with a commitment to make it last forever. But over time the magic of a relationship starts fading away and we struggle to keep the flame of love burning, hoping to relive those lost moments once more.

And to a large extent this can be possible with a bit of effort from your end. All you need to do is take baby steps to work things out and then once more you will see love entering your life and adding those missing touches to your relationship.

Say it to his face

The first time you said it, you were nervous and once you had expressed it, you felt on the top of the world. Today, you are once more hesitant and this time it is because you feel that he doesn’t really care about it. Or you want to say it differently. So, rather than going through a maze of web pages to get it right, here are some simple tips to help you get it right at the very beginning.

• Saying ‘I love you’ is not a testimony to your relationship. Don’t say it just to hear him say it back to you. With this approach you will always sound wrong. Instead, say it when you really feel it.
• The above rule applies to you as well. Never say ‘I love you’ just to reciprocate a feeling. It is much better to smile and say thank you, rather than stating something that you are really not ready for.
• These three magical words shouldn’t be used as a weapon to win an argument or simply be used as a tactic. And please don’t use it as a favor.
• Digital media can’t express love. Yes, it makes it easier to stay connected and it is ok to drop a sms to say that you are stuck in a traffic jam, but if you want to express your emotions and love say it in person.
• The most important thing to remember is love is an emotion to feel and then express. Don’t let any kind of pressure or anxiety spill it out from you without your really meaning it.

Show how much you mean it

One thing that every couple or any person in a relationship has to understand is the truthfulness for love. If you really don’t mean it or are not sincere about it, simply don’t say ‘I love you’. These are truly magical words so it is sure to follow you and expect some actions from your end to validate the emotion. So, if you have said it, then express it with gestures like switching your phone off when you are having a conversation with your partner, knowing his favorite music, taking the initiative to plan an evening out and once in a while even making the first move in the bedroom.

The other important thing that you just have to do is coming out of your comfort zone and trying to make the other person comfortable. You have to make the other person understand that you understand what he really wants. Talk about your feelings with thinking that you look like a complete idiot.

Don’t hold back

Holding back is like slow poison to any relationship. You keep thinking in your mind and your partner is on a completely different note. So, as you take risks in other things of your life, take risk in your relationship also. Sharing love with honesty will never bring you down. It takes a lot of courage to be honest and expressive of our feelings and each one of us knows that. So, whether he acknowledges or not or simply looks at you in a funny manner, he knows you mean it. You need make up to hide a lie but not to express truth.